Listen, I don’t know how to cook a turkey, but if I wanted to learn, I would look on a mommy blog. Women who love to entertain and feed their families flock to them to hone their skills and pursue their interests in cooking and homemaking. In fact, when I asked my boyfriend if he could make us baked pumpkin seeds and he whined about how time consuming separating the seeds from the rest of the guts is, I said, “How long have mommy blogs been around? Find one and figure out how to do it faster. They know what’s up!” The pumpkin seeds were delicious, by the way.
While it is not uncommon to hear that the work of women and mothers is less valuable, it is always disappointing to hear that from another woman. Especially a woman whose movie was promoted by the very people she now slights. Our work was valuable then, but is apparently less so now. I get a little irritated when people profit from those for whom they have disdain – say what you like about mommy blogs, but think about it long and hard before you feed yourself from their labour.
Being a mom has prevented me from doing a lot of things. I mean, let’s be real, I get a little nervous when I sneeze and I don’t know if the trampoline and I are ever going to be BFFs but what it’s never stopped me from doing is creating written work that has “real substance and premium thought-provoking, well-made content.” My brain was not removed when I birthed my eight pound baby and my role as a mother does not make my perspective, content or platform less valuable.
My blog is one of my small businesses. It has had months where it has paid the rent. It became a platform from which I launched my freelance writing career and eventually my business providing services online to entrepreneurs and other small businesses. In a time where print is dying, we are indie online publishers for women. We are contracted by big business to create compelling content that positions their products, promotes their parties and even creates buzz about the movies whose stars don’t have much use for us.
Aside from the monetary end of things, this work has value. Mommy bloggers connect with people, we hold space for people, and we help people feel less alone. In telling our stories we reduce stigma, we make it safe for someone else to say they’ve been there too, we build community, and we share freely of our lives and experiences.
I can’t tell you 14 ways to cook a turkey, but I have cultivated a community of women who will cheer you on while you figure it out for yourself. We will also get together and laugh about it if it all goes to hell. But she’s right, women DO deserve “real substance and premium thought-provoking, well-made content.” That’s why I’ve been making it, and why I will continue to do so. People who think something isn’t happening shouldn’t interrupt the folks already doing it (like me.)