If I knew then what I know now, I wonder how different life would have been. Looking back on my preconceptions about my body and self-love, I realize how far I’ve come. I wish I could go back in time and find the words to tell myself the things I needed to hear:

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You deserve more.

You deserve to occupy more space. You do not have to earn every inch you occupy. You are entitled to a place in this world just like anybody else. It is a birthright, not payment for services rendered making other people more comfortable with the shape of your body. Do not shrink from the world; be courageous. Stop trying to disappear. Stop being afraid to be seen. Nobody else sees you the way you interpret your form. In becoming a shadow of who you were, you are shutting out the light.

You deserve more.

You deserve more than calorie restriction and self-harm. You do not have to earn every mouthful. You are entitled to nourish your body just like anyone else. Food is not currency. [bctt tweet=”Food is not legal tender to be traded for a more socially acceptable curve to your body. “] Do not be afraid to enjoy consumption. Stop restricting joy. There is nothing wrong with you that means you should not experience pleasure. There is nothing wrong with you.

You deserve more.

You deserve more love. If you feel like those who should love you don’t then for goodness sake’s love yourself enough to make up for them. It is their loss and not your deficiency. You don’t need to punish yourself for love you do not receive. If you are to undertake any Do It Yourself project, let it be self-love. People come and people go, so you’re going to have to become comfortable with being on your own side.

You deserve more.

You deserve more life than you have lived so far, so do yourself a favour and stick around. It’s just about to get good and you’re not going to want to miss the best part. You deserve more happy, more smiles, more joy and more sunrises.

These are the things I wish I could tell myself. I don’t know if it would change things. I don’t know if I would have still lost so much time trying to self-destruct at a glacial pace. The things I’ve been through to learn these lessons are why I am involved with eating disorder advocacy and body positive fitness. In the course of my work, I’ve met some really amazing people who are also trying to make a difference.

If I Knew Then - Lessons In Body Image And Self Love

My friend Joyelle Brandt has planned a very important event – The Love Your Body Summit. She asked me to get involved with sharing information about the event to help facilitate the important conversations that will take place. It’s going to be an inspiring day of speakers, joyful movement, music, art and self reflection designed to empower girls and women to love their bodies. You can buy tickets here or enter to win them here. I hope to see you there, because you deserve more too.

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  1. This is beautiful. I know SO many who suffer greatly with body image and eating disorders- and honestly? Who doesn’t walk that self sabotaging road in their life as we all desperately need to discover our worth.

    This campaign sounds amazing. Sharing!